What I have learned is that one of the biggest (if not the biggest) things that holds us back from living the life we want is what goes on in our heads.
We tell ourselves the same stories over and over again, stories that we have mostly created many years ago. How can we expect to see anything different in our lives with the same instructions on repeat?
Stories such as…
“This is pointless and nothing will come out of it.”
“I am overweight and will stay that way regardless of anything I do.”
“It’s just my fate to be like that.”
“If I manage somehow to shed off a couple of kilos I always end up gaining more. It’s foolish to even try.”
“I not good at exercising.”
“I don’t like exercising.”
“Carbohydrates make me fat.”
If these stories are making us feel unhappy we can pretty much be sure that they are based on lies (because lies don’t feel good). Yet day after day, year after year, we continue to strengthen the belief in them. And it’s very, very hard to change something that’s been the base for your thinking for such a long time.
So how do you overcome these barriers?
Well to be honest, you’re going to have to work at it.
Constantly. Like anything new that you want to create. It needs attention, time and patience.
But the good news is, you can teach your mind how to change. Here are my 4 steps to doing so:
Firstly you need to make a decision that you want something to change. If you don’t recognise something as a problem you won’t consider doing anything about it. Deciding that you are not willing to tolerate the status quo any more moves you into a powerful state of creating new thoughts in your mind. This energy will help to create new ideas, ones that you may not even have considered before.
Secondly you need to understand your story, your thoughts and feelings. For example, you have tried to lose weight in the past but you’re not able to keep it off. This puts a belief in your mind that you are not able to do it. Unless you remove, or reframe, this limiting belief you will continue to be held to the level of that belief and hence unsuccessful in the achievement of a new goal. Establishing this awareness and overcoming the limitations can be hard to do by yourself. But I can help you. Ask yourself the question, “What am I telling myself on a daily basis?” and “Why am I telling myself that?”
You need to focus your mind on what it is you are passionate about and pursue it without giving up or changing course for at least 90 days. “Do I want to continue telling myself that story?” and “What would I prefer to focus on?” It takes time to create a new behaviour and it has to evoke emotion within you. After the age of 25 our brains don’t change as easily as they did when we were younger. Focus and strong emotions create the necessary neurochemicals (such as acetyl choline and adrenaline) needed to rewire our brain.
You need to believe you can have your goal. It is true that you can have everything you want in your life, only if you believe you can. “What do I want to believe is true?” “I believe I am worthy of my goal” “The only limits you have are the limits you believe.” Wayne Dyer Changing your beliefs will absolutely change your results – and your life.
We manifest what we believe.
To discover what we believe, we need to question our thoughts and decisions. Which leads us right back to the first strategy.
Do you want to make a new decision?
If you do, I would love to help you do this which is why I created my FeelGood 12 Week Challenge, especially if you are frustrated from many previous unsuccessful or unsustainable attempts!!
There is a solution and it is easier than you think. Taking the necessary steps will rapidly accelerate the journey to achieving any goal that you desire.
Imagine what that would feel like?
How would your life be different?
The only question remaining is: Do you want to do this?
And if the answer is yes, then let’s get started!
Reach out at any time.