When I talk to my busy female clients about their self-care routines their response is usually “I don’t even get a spare 5 minutes, let alone think about meditation.”
I can understand this, as I was one of these women. In a world where success seems to come from getting a lot of things done, there is a lot of pressure to be busy all the time.
The reality is self-care is non-negotiable and here are my 5 reasons why:
1. Self-care reduces stress
The alternative to self-care is exhausting and exhaustion leads to stress and high levels of stress result in unproductivity. Continually exhausting all your energy on others will lead to negative feelings such as guilt, shame, resentment and anger. These feelings create dis-ease and stress in the body and prevent you from showing up as your best self.
2. Self-care is self-assessment
When we talk about self-care it means taking a moment for you to focus on YOU, allowing you to recognise that you are important too and that you deserve to look after yourself, letting go of any judgement and giving yourself permission to be kind to yourself.
3. Self-care is something that you deserve
Self-care allows you to give love to yourself so that you can give love to others. Busy women constantly direct their energy outward but often neglect to balance it the other way as well. Over time energy is drained if not adequately replaced. Think about how much better you felt after a good night’s sleep or a short work break or holiday. We need relaxation and “time out” for maintenance of our systems, repair and rejuvenation.
4. Self-care is not self-ish
It is not called self-indulgence but rather self-care for a reason – it cares for oneself. Your sense of self-worth is not judged by how much you do for others but how important you are to YOU. If you are not good to yourself, how can you expect anyone else to be good to you? You are worthy. You owe it to yourself to give yourself grace and understanding. Imagine if your child or someone you love needs time to rest. Of course you would allow them to take time, you would understand they needed time to feel better, you may even demand that they took the time to recover. Bring that love and attention to yourself when you need it too.
5. Self-care sets up your day powerfully
Self-care does not have to be complicated nor does it need to take a lot of time. In fact, the busier you are, the more you need to find time to stop. Giving yourself permission to stop and breathe makes things not only better for yourself but for those around you as well. Scheduling some time first thing in the morning is a great way to beat any other distractions that are likely to come along.
So how do you do it?
If finding time to slow down is difficult for you, have a think about where the belief of “not stopping” came from. What situation influenced this belief? Where did you begin to believe it was important to keep going?
Most likely it was something in your childhood. When we are younger the big environmental influencers come mostly from our family, religion, school and the culture of the society in which we live.
Take a look in the mirror and ask yourself:
- Do I have the energy I need to show up as the person I want to be?
- Do I feel happy?
- Do I feel focused?
- Do I feel creative?
- Do I feel inspired?
- Do I feel loved?
If not, you can start right now to change that around. It isn’t as difficult as you may think.
Self-care begins by deciding to focus on you and then creating healthy sustainable habits. Try starting the day with some deep breathing and meditation, move your body, nourish it with healthy food and water, set your intention for the day, be grateful, celebrate your wins and smile.
With regular commitment and attention to establishing these rituals you will improve your self-confidence and recognise the importance that these have in achieving the goals you set for yourself. It is about working smarter, not harder.
It is about turning that “work” into fun. In doing so your stress levels will decrease and your productivity will increase. That is a win-win situation, and what busy person doesn’t like the sound of that.
Give some self-care a try and see how you feel, see how your productivity changes.
As the CEO of your life, every choice you make needs to support who you are. Who knows, you may even find you are more productive when you find the time to slow down. 😊